What this test explores
You’ll get scores across four dimensions:
- Insecurity triggers – fear of not being enough or being replaced.
- Comparison sensitivity – getting activated by rivals, exes, or social comparison.
- Reassurance seeking – repeated checking, asking, or needing certainty.
- Jealousy-driven control – urges to monitor, restrict, or manage others to feel safe.
High scores can reflect past experiences (betrayal, inconsistent caregiving), current relationship stress, or low self-worth. This test is for reflection and does not diagnose any condition.
How the test works
You’ll see one statement at a time. Answer based on your typical experience in close relationships. All questions are required.
A healthier alternative to checking
- Name the trigger (e.g., “late reply,” “ex mentioned,” “social media”).
- Label the feeling (fear, shame, anger, sadness).
- Make a direct request (clarity, reassurance once, quality time) instead of checking repeatedly.
- Choose a boundary (what you will do) rather than control (what they must do).