What this test explores
You’ll get scores across four dimensions:
- Emotional safety – feeling secure enough to be open without constant fear.
- Suspicion & hypervigilance – scanning for signs something is wrong or hidden.
- Fear of betrayal – worry about being deceived, replaced, or abandoned.
- Reassurance & control – checking, testing, or seeking certainty to reduce anxiety.
High scores can reflect past experiences (betrayal, inconsistent caregiving, trauma) or current relationship contexts. This test cannot diagnose conditions; it’s meant for reflection.
How the test works
You’ll see one statement at a time. Answer based on your typical experience across relationships (romantic, close friendships, family). All questions are required.
Healthy trust: practical steps
- Start with small vulnerability: share one feeling or need, then observe the response.
- Replace “tests” with requests: ask directly for clarity instead of checking indirectly.
- Notice your triggers: late replies, ambiguous messages, past betrayals—name them.
- Boundaries over control: boundaries protect you; control attempts to eliminate uncertainty.