How the test works
You will see one statement at a time. Some may feel similar; this is intentional. Please respond as honestly as you can. All questions are required.
What this test explores
This test explores four aspects of people-pleasing in relationships:
- Approval seeking – how much your self-worth depends on others’ opinions and praise.
- Boundaries – how difficult it is to say no, set limits and protect your energy.
- Conflict avoidance – how strongly you avoid tension, disagreements or disapproval.
- Self-silencing – how often you hide or minimise your own needs, emotions or desires.
Answer based on how you usually behave in close relationships (family, partner, friends, work).
How to use this result
People-pleasing patterns often develop as ways to stay safe, accepted or loved. Recognising them is not about blaming yourself, but about understanding how your strategies for connection may sometimes work against your own needs.
You might find it useful to notice small moments where you say “yes” while meaning “no”, or where you hide what you feel to avoid discomfort, and gently experiment with clearer, more compassionate boundaries.
People-Pleasing Test – FAQ
Is people-pleasing always a problem?
Not necessarily. Caring about others is healthy. People-pleasing becomes more problematic when you habitually override your own needs, values or limits to keep others comfortable.
Can people-pleasing change over time?
Yes. These patterns are learned and can evolve through awareness, boundary work and more balanced relationships.
Should I share this result with a therapist?
You can. The result is not a diagnosis, but it can help open a conversation about how you protect relationships, how you say “yes” and “no”, and what you might want to change.