How the test works
Answer based on your experience over approximately the last month, thinking about one or more close relationships (for example a partner, ex-partner or very close family member). Focus on how you tend to cope when there is tension, disagreement or emotional distance. All questions are required.
What this test explores
The test focuses on how often, over roughly the last month, you experience:
- Communication & emotional sharing – how you talk about needs, feelings and concerns with close others.
- Emotion regulation & de-escalation – how you manage strong feelings and help conflicts calm down instead of escalating.
- Collaborative problem-solving – how you approach relationship problems with a “team” mindset rather than only blame or withdrawal.
- Boundaries & support – how you balance closeness with personal limits, and how you ask for or offer support.
None of these dimensions requires you to be perfect. They describe tendencies that can change over time, especially when you work on them intentionally or with support.
How to use this result
Seeing coping styles in relationships as dimensions can help you identify specific areas for growth. For example, you might be good at staying calm but find it hard to express needs, or you may communicate a lot but struggle to set healthy boundaries.
You can use this profile to guide self-help work, conversations with partners or family members, or counselling focused on communication, emotion regulation, collaboration and boundaries in close relationships.
Coping Styles in Close Relationships Test – FAQ
Can coping styles in relationships change?
Yes. Coping styles are shaped by past experiences, attachment patterns and current stress, but they can change. Many people develop new ways of communicating, regulating emotions and setting boundaries through therapy, courses or intentional practice in relationships.
Does a lower score mean I am a “bad partner”?
No. Lower scores often reflect how hard relationships have been for you, not your value as a person. The aim of this test is to offer language and structure to understand your patterns and consider what kind of support might help.
Can this test replace couples or individual therapy?
No. This test is a self-reflection and psychoeducation tool. It cannot capture all relevant details about your relationships, safety or wellbeing. If you are worried about your relationships or how you cope in them, consider discussing these results with a qualified professional.