How the test works
Answer based on how you typically show up in close relationships (romantic, family, friendships). All questions are required. This tool is for reflection, not diagnosis.
Small steps that often help
- Name your needs: what do you want, feel, and need—before fixing others?
- Boundary practice: “I can’t do that today” / “I need time to think.”
- Reduce rescuing: support without taking over responsibility for outcomes.
- Slow decisions: pause before saying “yes” to avoid automatic people-pleasing.
- Self-compassion: approval is not the same as worth.